I am a user of Instagram. I don't post often because I mainly like to post pictures from holidays or when we are traveling. Yesterday I noticed a movement on Instagram where a lot of people were posting very real, raw videos & opening up on Instagram. People were talking about how detrimental it is to show & see everything so perfect on Instagram & social media. No one has a perfect life & we all have our struggles. It really made me think a lot seeing videos of others opening up.
It's so easy to look at Instagram & look at our favorite bloggers & think that their life looks perfect. A lot of times they look like they have perfect children, a perfect relationship with their husband, a beautiful house, go on trips around the world all the time, & have beautiful designer clothes. But that is not real. It is just such a small part of their lives & it is extremely curated & edited. Most of the time, hundreds of pictures were taken, then the pictures were edited with filters & a lot of time was spent on the whole process. I used to think it seemed like a perfect life to have a popular blog. That it seemed perfect to be able to travel with your spouse & get paid for it. But in reality, I think it would be a lot of fun but it would bring it's own stress. I love having pictures to remember my trips from, but when I take a picture I want to just snap one quickly & I don't want to always have my camera or phone with me. Traveling & time with my husband is my time when I can really relax & not have to worry about work or anything else. When I really think about it, having to take pictures for work would be really hard & take the fun out of a lot of situations. Not to mention having to edit, think captions that will get a lot of likes, etc. I am not slamming Instagrammers or bloggers, I really like looking at blogs especially but I think that it can be something that can be detrimental at times to see this fake reality & fake perfection. I really like how others who post picture perfect Instagrams are coming out & showing that their real life is not perfect & that their pictures do not show reality. I don't think there is anything wrong with taking pretty pictures & looking for pictures for inspiration but their is a very thin line between looking at pictures for inspiration & comparing your life to them. It is so easy to cross & I do this often.
For me, the hard things is seeing people who have "perfect children". Now I know that they are not really perfect children, but I think because I want children of mine own so badly, it is just something that kind of hurts me to look at. The hardest thing is actually seeing women who are pregnant & posting pictures & videos all the time. Or people complaining about having children in a joking way. Those are the hardest for me & when I am feeling hurt by that, I just delete them. So sorry if you are pregnant right now or just had a baby but I need to delete you from my instagram because their is no way it is good for me to see your stories & pictures every day!
Anyways, I think it is a great thing for people to show a more real side & to keep in mind the dangers of a fake reality. I also think it is important for people to encourage others when they show a real & vulnerable side instead of to criticize, judge, or post hateful comments. That will just make people feel like they can only post a fake/perfect side to themselves.
Anyways, those are my thoughts. I don't know if anyone else even reads this blog, but if you do, please comment what your thoughts are on instagram vs. reality.
& to end, one of my favorite quotes, "comparison is the thief of joy".