Well, the past month Nate & I started meeting with a new doctor that specializes in infertility. He has an office called the Fertility Treatment Center in Tempe and everyone there is extremely knowledgeable and very nice. It has only been a month since we started going there and I feel like we have learned a lot, as well as had some disappointing news, but we feel like we are getting the best treatment available there. Our first appointment, was a consultation & lasted about 2 hours long. We talked with the doctor, then had a ultrasound, then talked with the doctor again about what he thought our best options were, and then had a nurse explain a little more in depth, got my blood taken, and then talked with someone about the costs of everything. It was very organized & we felt like we got so much done in just a few hours. After talking with the doctor, he decided to have me continue taking Metformin (1000mg, twice a day), take Femara, and do IUI for the first few cycles. I was also supposed to come back in a few weeks to have an HSG x-ray. We were told not to research the HSG because people put horror stories on the internet about it and it wasn't that bad. That scared me a little but I would rather know less so that I don't worry, so I didn't look anything up about it.
I came back for my HSG x-ray a week and a half later & was pretty nervous for it. It is supposed to show if your tubes are blocked at all, but usually comes back that they are not blocked. They put a dye in you and I won't explain the whole process, but it is awkward & pretty uncomfortable. The doctor's office has a surgery center connected, which is nice. When the x-ray was being done, the doctor was explaining everything and I could see the x-ray on a screen. The dye didn't seem to be going anywhere, & I could tell something was wrong because they had to switch and get a different tool and didn't seem to be talking much anymore. Finally, the doctor told me that my fallopian tubes were completely blocked and he had tried to clear them but was unable to. I was so sad, we had seen so many women go in and out, getting the test done, & everything seemed to be fine with them. I was trying not to cry & just went back in the bathroom to get changed. It was really disappointing news because we were supposed to be coming back in a few days to do IUI and had thought we had a chance at getting pregnant that month.
We talked to Dr. Craig a few days later about our options & were hopeful that there would be many options before talking to him. During our phone call with him, we realized we really only have 2 options,
1. Laproscopy and IUI: Trying to see if at least one of my tubes can be unblocked through a surgery and then trying IUI. This would only give us about 3-4 months to try IUI and then the tube(s) would most likely close up again and have a high risk of an ectopic pregnancy if I got pregnant when they were closing up. The surgery would cost $1,500, plus the cost of anesthesia & then IUI would cost about $1,000-$1,500 each time.
2. In Vitro Fertilization: IVF would cost $16,500 and the chances are higher of it working. Just thinking of how much money this is and the amount of time it would take us to save breaks my heart. I don't care about the money, I know it will be completely worth it if we can have a child, but having to wait at least another year to even be able to try & having this be our only option if the Laproscopy doesn't work is something that really worries Nate & I.
There is one thing that could work with IVF. Our doctor's office is doing a study on IVF and if you meet certain qualifications, you can get IVF for only 10% of the usual cost, so it would only cost $1,600. When we first met with Dr. Craig, he told us about the study & they checked my bloodwork to see if I was eligible for it. Unfortunately, my AMH level was off by a small amount. On our phone call, the dr. said that sometimes if you go in to get your bloodwork done when you are dehydrated, the level can come out higher since it is more concentrated. I am going to go in and get my bloodwork done again to see if we can get the level higher so that I can qualify for the study. I know it is a long shot and we were told not to get our hopes up, but that would be such a miracle and such a blessing if we were able to qualify for the study. We have been praying about it and thinking about it all week.
It is really such a stressful process going through infertility. No one really understands unless it's something they have been through. I know that one day we will have children & all of this will seem so far behind us. I am thankful that Nate & I have such a happy, wonderful marriage. I'm thankful for the gospel & for the ability to pray to my Heavenly Father & know that he hears and answers my prayers. I have felt hope, peace, & comfort throughout this process. There have been so many hard days too, but I know that it is through the trials & pain that we grow stronger. Nate has been such a great support & I know that we will be better parents because of this experience.